|Posted on November 9, 2011 at 10:40 PM|
"Here's the truth about time management.
We don't 'find' time, we must 'make' time for what is important to us."
This was the opening of one of the daily e-newsletters that I subscribe to. Over the course of my time studying self esteem, fitness, nutrition, and life coaching the one underlying common thread in all of them is time management. And the one underlying theme when it comes to all of the issues with time management is - priorities.
This is a big one and I suspect that there will be many more blogs to come on this topice but the truth is that you will ALWAYS find and make time for the things that are the most important to you.
And the things that are the most important you hold a value, they give you something back, they have a pay off; most often payoffs that we don't even acknowledge - and they are not always positive.:/
You job is important and gets a good deal of your time because you get a pay check from it (this is a very literal exerample of the payoff). Your kids get your attention because they love you and you love them - you feel a responsibility to them so you carve out time to do the things that they need and want; cook, laundry, homework, transport to and from various extra curricular activities... they re important to you so you MAKE the time.
But what about those things that you want to do or plan to do .... someday. Are they important enough to start making changes today to find time to begin working towards your dreams and goals? You see the truth is, you will not do this until you have found an emotional attachment to your goal. Until it holds so deep seeded meaning for you that touches your core values will you begin to reorganize your life to accomodate it.
- unconditional love
- desire to motivate and inspire others
These are just a few examples of emotional motivators that can help propel us into action to move toward our goals.
"It's not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is, what are we busy about?"
– Henry David Thoreau
So the obvious first step is to really look at the clarify what your main priorities are in life. What, and who is/are the most important to you? Then we need to work on dividing your time and attention accordingly. This is when things get tangly for many people. We have to start cutting out things that do not bring us closer to our goals and are not the best use of our time in relation to our priorities. Fear of disapppointing others can be paralyzing but don't let this distract you from the tasl at hand - if those people are not at the top of your list of priorities than you need to take a long hard look at things. Are you devoting your time to these things and people instead of those at the top of your list? I must painfully admit that I have been guilty of this in the extreme! My overwhelming fear of rejection has lead me to over commit many times in my life in attempts to try and please everyone!
One more thing.....as you begin to look at your priorities do not forget to think about where you place yourself on your list....and always remember...
"You can not give from a dry well"
Wishing you a balanced life!